Day 26: Don’t make negative assumptions

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

Aya of the Day:

O you who have believed, avoid much [negative] assumption. Indeed, some assumption is sin. And do not spy or backbite each other. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his brother when dead? You would detest it. And fear Allah ; indeed, Allah is Accepting of repentance and Merciful. [Surat al-Hujurat, 49:12]

Lesson of the day: Don’t make negative assumptions

Always try to make excuses for people. Many of us jump to conclusions when we see something that can be considered suspicious, and not only do we make negative assumptions, we backbite and gossip. Allah likens this to eating the flesh of our dead brother. Just as we would find that disgusting, so should we find the act of backbiting and thinking bad of people disgusting. Many of the scholars said to make 70 excuses for someone, and if we have, to assume that he or she has an excuse we did not think of.

This does not mean we should not advise people if they are doing something wrong, but at the same time we should not assume the worst of their intentions. We should assume that they do not know that what they are doing is bad or that they need help to become better, and pray for their guidance. If we can, we should try to advise them.

In the same Surah, Allah tells us “The believers are but brothers, so make settlement between your brothers. And fear Allah that you may receive mercy.” [Surat al-Hujurat, 49:10] One of the greatest acts, greater than extra prayer and voluntary charity is to make amends between people [Muwatta]. By backbiting and gossiping, we only fuel the flames and create discord within the community that should be like a family that supports it members. May Allah enable us to hold back our tongues and think well of people.


Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s