بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
And [remember] when Satan made their deeds pleasing to them and said, “No one can overcome you today from among the people, and indeed, I am your protector.” But when the two armies sighted each other, he turned on his heels and said, “Indeed, I am disassociated from you. Indeed, I see what you do not see; indeed I fear Allah . And Allah is severe in penalty.” (Surat al-Anfal, 8:48)
Satan is a master at making you seem invincible; but Satan is a trickster. He makes our misdeeds pleasing to us. But this verse tells us that when the going gets tough, Satan will disassociate from us. We have no one to blame but ourselves.
Responsibility is a big theme in the Qur’an. We are told that we will come to our Lord on the Day of Judgment alone. We are reminded that no soul shall carry the burden of another.
Taking responsibility enables us to do three things; firstly, by taking ownership over our own actions and states, change is ultimately in our hands. Secondly, it gets us out of a victim mentality. Instead of thinking, “It’s not my fault, it’s x y z”, we force ourselves to move forward. We know that Allah will not ask us more than we can bear, so we need to deal with the issues. Finally, it can also save our human relationships. Many relationships are damaged by the blame game. When we take responsibility, we can honestly ask ourselves, “how did I contribute?” We cannot change other people unless they want to change, but we can change ourselves. And taking responsibility is one step in the right direction.
Don’t blame Satan, bad friends, or anything else. They will all disassociate with you on the Day of Judgment. Take responsibility for your actions, and you will save both your dunya and Hereafter.